Avoidant deactivation: what it is and what it felt like
What avoidant deactivation means in attachment research, the signs people describe, and why it explains a pattern without diagnosing anyone.
The four profiles
Secure
Low attachment anxiety and low avoidance.
Anxious
Higher attachment anxiety and lower avoidance.
Dismissive-avoidant
Higher attachment avoidance and lower anxiety.
Fearful-avoidant
High attachment anxiety and high avoidance.
Who are they?
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